I see you.
From being seen to helping others feel seen.
Look at me.
Traditional influencing: I show you who I am, what I do and how I live.
I see you.
Dreamfluencing: I see what is in you and what you long for. And I encourage you to find your own way.
A sentence you keep for years
Most of us know what it is like to be overlooked. And what it is like when someone suddenly recognises something in us we hardly dared to think ourselves.
A teacher. A friend. A stranger on a train. You carry sentences like that around for a long time.
Dreamfluencing means being the person who says such a sentence more often.
Four qualities
They can be practised. Any day, with anyone.
Seeing
Looking until you see more than the role. What shines in this person? What is only like this in them?
Witnessing
Staying when someone shows something. Without correcting, analysing or comforting too soon.
Encouraging
Saying what you believe someone can do. Others often believe in us before we do.
Celebrating
Cheering when someone dares. What gets celebrated is the courage to show up – with fear, sadness or shaky knees included. A good mood is not required.
In daily life it looks like this
- Your daughter shows you a drawing. You ask what she likes best about it before you say “lovely”.
- A colleague mentions an idea in passing. The next day you ask about it.
- A friend is crying. You stay put and say nothing for a while.
- Someone dares something for the first time. You tell them you saw it.
A movement in the making
Anyone can be a Dreamfluencer. Without a channel, without followers, without training.
Imagine word gets around. People encouraging each other to live more of what is alive in them.
We are not there yet. But it starts somewhere. Today, for instance, with a single sentence to a single person.
See the dream in others.
Want to be there early?
Write and say what speaks to you about the idea. Or what bothers you. Both help.